Hopefully I'll be able to see my children after June 14th

I have a court date on June 14, 2010 and I hope that I will be “permitted” to see my girls. I have to appear in front of Dearborn County Circuit Court Judge James D. Humphrey. June 14, 2010 will mark the tenth month that I have been unable to see my four and six year old daughters. On August 18, 2009, Judge Humphrey terminated my visitation time with my daughters because he felt that I might be “potentially” dangerous. What will I have done in the ten months leading up to the hearing to demonstrate that I am not dangerous? I will have done nothing dangerous.

It doesn’t seem to make sense, does it? My ex-wife filed for divorce January 8, 2007. During the course of the 2 ½-year divorce, my ex-wife never called the police, social services, or filed any motions to modify or restrict parenting in an effort to “protect” our children. The custody evaluation report made no mention of me being a danger to anyone. I cared for my daughters nearly half of the time during the course of a 2 ½-year divorce. The first mention of terminating my parenting time came in the August 18, 2009 orders from Judge James D. Humphrey when Judge Humphrey terminated my parenting time because he felt that I might be potentially dangerous.

It has been nearly 3 ½ years since my ex-wife filed for divorce and I still have not harassed, threatened, emotionally abused, or assaulted my children or my ex-wife. There is no evidence of any dangerous behavior throughout the history of my life. My ex-wife claimed I was not stable. Dr. Connor rambled about concerns of what I “might” do. The following are a list of things that I have been accused of, or had to deal with and I still have not exhibited any “dangerous” behavior:

· Without warning, on August 18, 2009, Judge James D. Humphrey terminated my ability to see my precious little girls.

· I was accused of loving my oldest daughter more than my youngest daughter.

· I was accused of spending time with the girls just to hurt their mother.

· Dr. Connor, of Connor and Associates in Erlanger, Kentucky, stated his evaluation had “numerous errors and oversights” and he wanted to charge each party $350 for him to fix his errors.

· Dr. Ed Connor, who also supervises the staff at the Children’s Home of Northern Kentucky, stated that he had difficulties understanding me due to “severe” ADHD and that my writings were confusing and difficult to follow.

· Dr. Connor testified that my writings were similar to those of individuals who have committed horrendous crimes against their families despite the fact that I was not allowed access to these alleged writings.

· Dr. Connor caused the first judge in my case, Judge Carl H. Taul, to recuse himself because the two conducted private conversations outside the presence of the parties.

· Dr. Connor wrote that he would not release the case file from his child custody evaluation because I did not have a lawyer, which gave opposing counsel, Angela G. Loechel, access to evidence that I was not privy to.

· Dr. Connor lied about the release of his case file from the custody evaluation, see Dr. Connor's illusive case file, and then told Judge Taul that I could not comprehend confidentiality and I may suffer from “reality distortion”. See "When Psychologists Attack"

· Opposing counsel, Angela G. Loechel, submitted Dr. Connor’s Office Policy Statement for individual psychological services as evidence in her efforts to obstruct my access to Dr. Connor’s case file. Ms. Loechel was able to obtain evidence to which I was not entitled.

· On September 9, 2008, Dr. Connor wrote that I was not provided with a copy of his Office Policy Statement. Dr. Connor claimed that it was an oversight on the part of his office staff but it did not matter that I did not sign the document because it was an “adjunct document” to the court order.

· On May 27, 2009, Dr. Connor testified that his secretary had mistakenly provided the Office Policy Statement to my ex-wife and it was NOT an “adjunct document” to the court order. See Dr. Connor's testimony. This probably had something to do with my inability to understand Dr. Connor’s terms of confidentiality.

· My ex-wife testified that she thought I was bi-polar despite the fact that her own expert, Dr. Connor, said I was not bi-polar.

· I was found to be unstable, potentially dangerous, unable to communicate, and my writings were confusing and difficult to follow. They said I was unable to maintain a steady job and that I have debilitating ADHD; yet Judge Humphrey based my child support on an imputed income that is higher than anything I have ever made.

· I was accused of spanking my one-year-old daughter “real hard” for eating cat food. I still cannot grasp that.

· Dr. Connor and my ex-wife speculated that I might be addicted to my Ritalin prescription without consulting my doctor. After expressing concerns about Ritalin addiction, they expressed concerns about me not taking my medication on a regular basis.

· Dr. Connor and my ex-wife claimed my writings were confusing and difficult to follow yet Judge Humphrey was in possession of my legal pleadings, internet postings, etc… that consisted of tens of thousands of words; none of which were confusing or difficult to follow.

· I was accused of rushing my seventeen-month-old daughter to the pediatrician in an effort to show an interest in having and being a primary caregiver when historically I had not done so. I thought I was just rushing my daughter to the doctor because she was having difficulties breathing. She needed breathing treatments for a couple of weeks.

· My ex-wife testified that she was not sure if I allowed my five-year-old daughter to shoot a 357 Magnum handgun. For those who are not familiar with firearms, a 357 Magnum is a step below the 44 Magnum that Clint Eastwood made popular in Dirty Harry. Imagine what would happen if a five-year-old child shot Dirty Harry’s gun.

· Even though there was no testimony from the court staff, Judge Humphrey wrote that I tried to intimidate the court staff. I have the video/audio of the court staff grilling me as to why I want to inspect public records, and please visit the Dearborn County Police Harassment video on YouTube to see how the court staff used the local law enforcement to try to discourage me from inspecting public records.

· I was “investigated” by the Dearborn County Special Crimes Unit. “Someone” filed a complaint with Dearborn County Prosecutor Aaron Negangard regarding some of my writings. The only people who could possibly fall under the jurisdiction of Dearborn County are Judge James D. Humphrey and opposing counsel, Angela G. Loechel. Unfortunately, Detective Mike Kreinhop would not tell me who made the complaint or any specifics about the complaint. Detective Kreinhop, who is running for Dearborn County Sheriff, even drove to my mother’s home in Norwood, Ohio to find me for questioning. My lawyer and a Norwood Police Officer expressed concerns about Detective Kreinhop crossing state lines and entering a different jurisdiction without contacting the local law enforcement. Detective Kreinhop did tell me that he thought Judge James D. Humphrey became defensive because I challenged Dr. Connor and Detective Kreinhop said he thought Dr. Connor went on the offensive against me in the name of self-preservation. Detective Kreinhop acknowledged that Dr. Connor may have committed interstate wire fraud but told me that I would have to contact the FBI or the Indiana State Police because he was not going to get involved. After acknowledging that Dr. Connor lied under oath, retaliated against me, and committed interstate wire fraud, Detective Kreinhop and Prosecutor Aaron Negangard failed to do anything to prevent Dr. Connor from hurting other children and parents. Prosecutor Negangard failed to bring any charges against me after their alleged shakedo… er, I mean secret investigation.

· During the course of the divorce, Dr. Connor sent copies of correspondence between he and I to opposing counsel, Angela Loechel. Both Angela Loechel and Dr. Connor refused to provide me with copies of their correspondence and Ms. Loechel even advised Dr. Connor on how to protect his wife, Dr. Sara Jones-Connor, from me calling her to testify.

· Angela Loechel and the Dearborn County Circuit Court continued to communicate with Dr. Edward Connor, without my knowledge, after the final orders were issued.

· On September 5, 2009, my ex-wife stopped letting me talk to my daughters on the phone. After I filed a petition for contempt in the Indiana court because she would not let the girls talk to me on the phone, my ex-wife and her parents had me arrested in Hamilton County, Ohio for telecommunications harassment. Not only were they not going to let me talk to my children, they tried to punish me for trying to maintain a relationship with my girls by sending me to jail for an evening. Seven months after I was arrested, my former father-in-law added himself to the complaint. A week and a half later, the judge dismissed the charge. Check out a copy of the criminal complaint and the details of the arrest. Apparently, my ex-wife was mad because Hamilton County was not interested in punishing me for exercising my 1^st amendment rights on my websites. I guess she found out that criminal courts follow real laws unlike the make-believe laws of the family court system.

· I underwent a competency evaluation with a psychologist with the Hamilton County Courts. After an hour, she asked me why I was there. She said that I was intelligent, well spoken and that I had a very good understanding of the law, especially civil law. To say the least, she was very shocked when I told her that Dr. Edward J. Connor said I had difficulties communicating due to my ADHD and Dr. Connor and Judge Humphrey felt I was potentially dangerous. She and the Hamilton County Judge were perplexed as to why Dr. Connor would not release a client’s own record.

· Judge Humphrey granted a hearing for my petition for contempt but later cancelled it stating he did not have jurisdiction over the matter while the case was in the appellate court. Indiana Appellate Rule 39 states “An appeal does not stay the effect or enforceability of a judgment or order of a trial court”. Either Judge Humphrey did not know that he retained the ability to enforce his order during the pending appeal or he lied about not having jurisdiction. Considering that Judge Humphrey is running for his 3^rd six year term, I find it hard to believe that he did not know about Indiana Appellate Rule 39.

· Dr. Connor contacted the Hamilton County Judge and the Prosecutor’s office in attempt to further slander me. He also complained about my website. Given the reaction from the Judge, prosecutor, and the court psychologist, I believe Dr. Connor lost quite a bit of credibility with the Hamilton County court system. As I always say, if you have a problem with my internet writings Doc, sue me. For some reason he never does. The longer people go without suing me for slander, libel, etc... only serves to add credibility to my story.

· Did I mention that my ex-wife stole some property that belonged to my mother? She did this when she and her father entered my house without my knowledge. They took a 51” LCD television that my mother accepted in lieu of rent from a tenant. Mom had me move the television from her rental house across the road to my home. This took place six months after my ex-wife filed for divorce but she claimed it was marital property.

· Judge James D. Humphrey ordered that I had to pay my ex-wife nearly $170,000. We did not even own a house.

· I was invited to attend my daughter’s parent teacher conferences. After the conference, the principal agreed to let me see my daughter’s student file. In the file was a picture of me on my wedding day and a note in my ex-wife’s handwriting instructing the school to call the police if I appeared at the school for any reason. The principal told me that she did not know who wrote the note and claimed that I provided the school with a picture of me on my wedding day with my ex-wife cut out of the picture. If I would have provided the school with a wedding photo with my ex-wife cut out of the picture, I probably would have been arrested.

· Dr. Connor was licensed to practice psychology in the state of Kentucky but not Indiana. Lawyers tell me that this does not matter. Judge Taul stated the order to release [the evaluation] was for “the doctor to release that which he is required to do under Kentucky law.” I still cannot figure out why Indiana courts are going by Kentucky laws.

· When my Ohio lawyer requested Dr. Connor’s case file, Dr. Connor instructed him to get the file from me because Dr. Connor claimed that already had a copy of the file. Then Dr. Connor told my lawyer that he could not re-release the file because it contained confidential information. Dr. Connor later told my Indiana lawyer that there was a court order prohibiting him from releasing the file.

Imagine going through all of this without yelling and screaming. Imagine not fighting anyone. Imagine never leaving a profane message on an answering machine when the other parent terminates your ability to talk to your children on the phone. Imagine losing your children and taking it in stride. That is what I have had to do. If I blew up just one time, I would fit the label they tried to place on me.

Judge Humphrey said he was most concerned about my irrational behavior and attacks on Dr. Connor. Read my website and blog and tell me what part of Dr. Connor’s actions should not publically scrutinized. What should I do on June 14^th? I guess I should just throw myself at the mercy of the court. I should take the stand and apologize to Judge James D. Humphrey for telling people that Dr. Edward J. Connor does not tell the truth. I will say I am sorry for publishing Dr. Connor’s conflicting and false written statements. I am sorry for posting the testimony of Dr. Connor because it is wrong for me to tell people that Dr. Connor lied under oath. I am sorry that I questioned why my ex-wife’s attorney, Angela G. Loechel, submitted a bogus document from Dr. Connor’s office in an attempt to deny my access to the case file or how Ms. Loechel was giving Dr. Connor legal advice to help protect Dr. Connor’s wife, Dr. Sara Jones-Connor, from having to testify. I am sorry for spreading my story because it provides support for parents like Scott, Kathy, John, Sherri, and Michael. I am sorry that I have been able to give insight and support to people in Australia, New Zealand, UK and other countries around the world. That is about all I can do because I do not have any evidence that I am not dangerous because there is not any evidence that says I am dangerous. I’m not at fault for all the people who have contacted me with similar complaints against Dr. Connor. It’s Dr. Connor’s fault for not doing his job. I have been slandered, harassed, arrested, and had the two most important things of my life stripped from me and I still have not done anything dangerous. What more do I need to prove?

I hope my story can give people some insight and support to stand up for their own causes. Almost any experience, whether good or bad, can be turned into a positive learning experience. When my children are older, they will be able to appreciate what sacrifice is and how we have to work hard to overcome obstacles in life. My children will always appreciate how I fought for them. The only thing that stands in the way of my children being united with their father are the people who are still trying to make an argument that I am potentially dangerous. They are the same people who do not want me to talk about the matter publically. If you have nothing to hide, there is no need to worry. I’m not worried. See you soon girls. I love you.

Who Cares About Health Care Reform or Taxes?

I rarely talk about politics in my web postings because I don't want it to interfere with the message I'm trying to convey about the problems with the family court system but something is really bothering me.

The new health care laws have people fighting mad about the fear of losing their constitutional rights. Attorneys General from several states are filing suits against the national government. People are joining militias "just in case"; whatever "just in case" may be. There are tea parties being held to help rally for change in government because the government spends too much of our money. Media outlets are telling people that they are losing the freedoms that our forefathers fought and died for. Many claim their actions are for the good of the children. You always hear that our children are going to suffer the consequences of what the government is doing today. Here is a news flash; the government took my children away.

Ripley County Circuit Judge Carl H. Taul is a democrat. He lied about why he could not, would not, and/or did not order the release of the case file from the child custody evaluation performed by Dr. Edward J. Connor. Republican Dearborn County Circuit Judge James D. Humphrey took away my ability to see my children because he "was most concerned about [my] irrational behavior and attacks on Dr. Connor." Dr. Edward J Connor admitted that his report contained "numerous errors and oversights." Dr. Connor lied about the reasons as to why he could or could not release his case file for the evaluation report. Dr. Connor stated he would not release the case file to me because I was representing myself. I did not punch Dr. Connor or call him at home, I filed a complaint with the Kentucky Board of Examiners of Psychology and I posted information on websites with supporting evidence in an effort to tell my story so I could help other people steer clear of Dr. Edward J. Connor. I was punished for exercising my constitutional right to represent myself and my right to freedom of speech. Two little girls are now without a father because a democratic judge and a republican judge felt it was in the judges' best interest to protect Dr. Edward J Connor. Where are the protestors? Screw taxes and government health care, the government just took my children because I exercised my 1st Amendment Rights.

People like to say that the world is going to end because Bush or Obama was/is in control. Try to think of life without the ability to see your children or your grandchildren. Who cares about Nancy Pelosi or John Boehner. Who cares what Sarah Palin has to say. Minnesota representative Michele Bachman was calling for the media to investigate "anti-American" sentiment in the U.S. Congress. "Our children... Our children... Our children... blah blah blah..." I fail to see how my 4 and 6 year old daughters' future tax brackets or job security will hold a candle to the damage done by not having a father.

I'm not here to offer perspective on the pluses or minuses of health care reform. I don't care if Pelosi's smile is a little on the taut side and I don't want to know the model number of Boehner's tanning bed. Is there anti-American sentiment in Congress? Of course there is. How many children are abused each year because the government denies them the ability to see a parent? Denying a child of a parent is one of the most un-American, unconstitutional, and unholy crimes the government could ever commit. Everyday, both Democrat and Republican leaders turn their backs to this type of child abuse. Unfortunately this type of child abuse doesn't make for good ratings on MSNBC or FOXNEWS so we will have to settle for protesting something else.

Feel free to join the Facebook group "Help Dan Brewington see his girls." The group has members from around the world and I can guarantee that this movement is truly in the best interests of the children. Thank you.

Update on DanHelpsKids.com

Check out the updates on www.DanHelpsKids.com. You can check out a copy of the criminal complaint that my ex-wife and her father filed against me because I tried to talk to my daughters on the phone. I also shared some war stories with some of the other prisoners in the Hamilton County Justice Center. No story would be complete without the antics of Dr. Edward J Connor and his attempts at trying to get me in trouble. If it wasn't for the fact that he hurts so many children, it would almost be amusing. Of course in the end the prosecutor recommended that the charge be dismissed because there wasn't any criminal activity on my part. Check it out.

New update to the website is near

I am working on updating www.DanHelpsKids.com and hopefully the addition will be up in the next day or two. This past Friday, Hamilton County (OH) Judge Dwane Mallory dismissed the telecommunication harassment charge that my ex-wife filed against me. The Hamilton County Prosecutor's office recommended that the charge be dropped. On September 5th, 2009, my ex-wife sent me a text telling me that I am not to contact her anymore. When I called to talk to my 3 and 5 year old daughters, she and her parents had me arrested for telecommunication harassment. Rather than allow the children to maintain phone contact with their father, the mother and maternal grandparents felt it was in the best interest of the children to terminate any communication I had with the children and to have me arrested. Fortunately, despite their efforts, the prosecutor's office felt the charges should be dropped. Even Dr. Edward J Connor got into the action and tried to harm me. Dr. Connor contacted Judge Mallory and the prosecutor crying about my web content. Being a crybaby isn't going to garner any sympathy for the crooked psychologist. Sorry Dr. Edward Connor. Hamilton County didn't buy your act. Actually, everyone seemed a little confused about the manner in which you do business. Maybe that's part of the reason why Judge Mallory wished me good luck after he dismissed the case. I guess Hamilton County didn't have to look too hard to understand that my ex-wife and her parents were using the criminal court system to punish me for trying to maintain a relationship with my little girls.

Keep an eye on www.DanHelpsKids.com as I will be posting the criminal complaints from my ex-wife and her father along with the story behind just another obstacle that I have had to overcome in my fight to be a father. Don't worry girls, daddy is still fighting for you. The sad thing is, my ex-wife and her parents will probably get away with what they did because I will never have the heart to tell my little girls that mommy, grandma and grandpa had the police take me to jail because I tried to talk to them on the phone. My girls don't deserve the burden associated with knowing that mommy, grandma, and grandpa wanted daddy to be arrested for trying to talk to his daughters. Stay tuned for more information.

Special Thanks to The Angry Dad

I want to thank The Angry Dad for the blog post regarding some of my previous writings. The Angry Dad's blog mentions how California law prohibits denying a parent custody because of a handicap or disability. He goes on to write about the ridiculousness of denying a parent the ability to see their children because of ADHD and how he doesn't have any problems understanding my writings. Please check out The Angry Dad and check in periodically, because his blog posts are rather informative. Thanks.

...and Dr. Edward J Connor says people with ADHD can't be parents

Yesterday, the Wall Street Journal published a story titled "Mind Games". The story discusses ADHD in adults and pros and cons of having ADHD. Adults with ADHD tend to have a higher risk for substance abuse, automobile accidents, etc... David Neeleman, the founder of JetBlue Airways, and Paul Orfalea, founder of Kinko's, have spoken out about how the disorder helped them come up with innovative ideas for their corporations, despite their having done poorly in school. The article never mentioned anything about ADHD causing people to be violent. The article never mentioned anything about parents with ADHD being a danger to their children. I lost my children largely to the fact that I have been treated for ADHD for the past 8 years.

The custody evaluator in my case, Dr. Edward J Connor of Connor and Associates, claimed that he had a hard time understanding me because of my ADHD. He claimed that my writings were confusing and difficult to follow. Dr. Connor claimed that my ADHD was to blame for the communication problems with my ex-wife. Dr. Ed Connor even suggested that people with OCD are better suited to care for young children that people with ADHD.

Dr. Connor said ADHD hindered my communication abilities. He made the argument that I had difficulties putting together coherent thoughts and sentences. Dr. Connor made many speculative statements and recommendations, yet he failed to contact my treating physician and therapist. Dr. Connor speculated what would happen "if" I stopped taking my medicine. He testified that he didn't know if I was taking my prescription on a regular basis. If Dr. Connor would have taken the time to contact my treating physician and therapist, he would have found that I never stopped taking medicine nor did I ever miss a therapy session. Rather than check the records, Dr. Connor speculated about prescription drug addiction, me not taking my medication, and everything in between.

Dr. Connor made all kind of outrageous claims and then wouldn't allow me to review his case file. Dr. Connor's evaluation made no mention of me being a danger to anyone. When I began requesting the file, Dr. Connor began contacting the Court about his concerns as to why I wanted the case file. I wanted the case file because Dr. Connor's contract said I was entitled to it. Indiana and Kentucky Law said I was entitled to it. Dr. Connor changed his policies regarding the release of the case file when I began requesting the file.

Dr. Edward J Connor of Connor and Associates in Erlanger, Kentucky is a danger to children. What psychological professional evaluates someone and then claims that the person is not entitled to the information that the evaluation is based upon? The depressing thing is Dr. Connor is directly involved with organizations like The Children's Home of Northern Kentucky. How many children are being harmed while Dr. Connor oversees the psychological staff of the Children's Home of Northern Kentucky? Dr. Connor claims he has difficulties communicating with people with ADHD. He claims people with OCD are better equipped to be parents than people with ADHD. ADHD parents are less likely to harm their children because dirty socks are left on the floor. ADHD parents are less likely to explode because things are out of order. Have you ever been afraid or known someone who was afraid of an OCD parent's reaction to an accident? Have you ever heard someone say, "My ADHD dad is going to kill me because I didn't separate the darks, colors, and whites before I did my laundry"? Probably not. I wash it all on the same cycle. Read the Wall Street Journal article, Dr. Edward J Connor. ADHD parents do not hurt children; people like Dr. Edward J Connor hurt children. Question to the Children's Home of Northern Kentucky: how long do you plan on allowing a child abuser to play a major role in your organization? As long as it's convenient I guess. For more information go to www.DanHelpsKids.com.

Update on Getting back to the Girls

We finally got the appellate brief filed. It's a relief to have a lawyer that I feel comfortable with. Finding a good lawyer can be like finding a good bar/restaurant. There are sports bars with a billion TVs and there are unknown bars with one TV in the corner. One is expensive; one isn't. One bar is owned by a national chain and the other bar is owned by a family or a couple of friends. The national chain can rely on advertising and notoriety to bring in business; the small bar relies on reasonable prices and good service to keep business.

My first attorney was a female who came from a family of lawyers from Bateville, IN. She failed to submit the required information to Court. My second attorney was part of the firm Wood and Lamping in Cincinnati, OH. He claimed he did not know if Dr. Connor's report was bad because he was not a psychologist. He fired me (by email) after I picketed my first attorney's office. My first appellate attorney was a female from a large firm in Bloomington, IN. She didn't give me any idea about a strategy in handling the appeal. She said that she would represent me in the trial court but said I had to pay an additional $5000 retainer (in addition to the $5000 retainer she already received) for her to do so because she said it was separate from my appeal. She advised me to take down my website because it could anger judges. She later fired me (by email) because I wanted to raise the issue of judicial vindictiveness. No phone calls or questions, just fired me. She sent me an email stating, "The extension has been granted for filing your appellate brief to and including February 16. Hopefully, that will give you time to either obtain other counsel or prepare the brief yourself." Thanks. If I wanted to file it myself, I wouldn't have paid you $10,000 to review it, or whatever it was you said you did with the money before you fired me.

I was to the point where I was going to file my own appeal. I tried big firms, small firms, a male attorney, two female attorneys, out of town lawyers, etc... and all they did was take my money. I found the firms that claim that they fight for you often will fight for you unless it is inconvenient to them. I was to the point where I did not trust any lawyer in the state of Indiana; until I saw a post on Facebook.

I saw a post from a lawyer on Indydad.com's Facebook page. He said he was just moving out on his own and starting his own practice. He graduated from Notre Dame Law School in 2003. He grew up with divorced parents. He is the father of a young daughter. Sounded promising. I contacted the lawyer and he found my case compelling. He said he would accept my case so I sent him my information. Then we set up an appointment to meet near the courthouse so he could meet with me and then go review the court record. Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that he accepted my case, reviewed my information, and drove over an hour to meet me and review the court record before he collected a dime. The best thing he did was listen to me.

I'm not a lawyer but I know a little about the law. This was the first Indiana attorney that I met that did not appear to be threatened by my knowledge of the law. He saw my internet postings as being informative; not threatening. He didn't say "this happens all the time." I felt that this was the guy.

My attorney filed the appellate brief yesterday and then called me today to talk about the strategy in going back to the trial court to get visitation from the girls. He too is puzzled about how the court can base its decision in terminating the time I have with the girls on the evaluation and testimony of Dr. Edward J Connor without allowing me to review Dr. Connor's case file. How can I fight something when I don't know what I am fighting against? Now I have someone who believes in me and someone who believes in right and wrong. I have a lawyer who is willing to get in the huddle and form a game plan. Strategy, what a novel idea. Why does the lawyer with the least professional experience seem to have the best understanding of the situation and the most passion? I feel that I not only found a good lawyer, but I found a good human being. I found out that going with big names and big money sometimes buys you expensive crappy service. I took a gamble on an unknown family establishment and received quality services from a person who cares.

I have a court date on June 14, 2010. Judge Humphrey said I needed an evaluation to see if I presented any danger to the children. Judge Humphrey said he had to approve any evaluator, so he scheduled a hearing three months after my attorney filed the motion to approve a psychiatrist. Judge Humphrey is really doing everything he can to expedite my ability to see my children. Hopefully my ex will agree to the evaluator in an effort to speed up the process of allowing the girls to have visitation. Probably not but I can always hope.

I knew this wasn't going to be an easy process but it's nice knowing that I have someone that I can trust. Dr. Connor's report nearly three years old and it's been nearly a year since his testimony. I haven't seen the girls since August 18, 2009. Judge Humphrey and my ex are going to have a hard time in continuing to make the argument that I "might" be dangerous when I haven't placed anyone in danger throughout the course of the divorce that began in January 2007. When will the "he mights" be replaced with the "he hasn't"? I hope that Judge Humphrey and my ex wife don't continue to make me defend myself against something that I "may" do because there is no defense to it. I can say George Clooney "may" drive a car through a crowed playground. I could pay a "professional expert" to evaluate George. The psychologist can say "Mr. Clooney's psychological profile is similar to individuals who have committed horrendous crimes against children." How does someone fight that? At least I have a good lawyer who will fight against the accusations of what I may be capable of doing. If you go by the facts of the record, I'm capable of caring for and loving my little girls. The longer I go without doing any of the things that Dr. Connor, Judge Humphrey, and my ex claim that I am capable of, only proves that they were either wrong about their suspicions or they were fabricating their stories and beliefs. Either way, it's time for them to stop fighting to keep two little girls fatherless, because my new attorney and I are not giving up on my little girls.

A touching email

Yesterday I received an email from another parent involved with the family court system. The mother thanked me for the information I've made available on my websites. I am thankful that I was able to help at least one more parent cope with the terrors of the family court system. Fear of losing a child is worse than the fear of death. Why should so many parents be subjected to this kind of fear? If a parent speaks out, they are labeled paranoid, narcissistic, or dangerous. If they do not speak out, they risk losing their children. The courts encourage bad behavior because they punish those who speak out against the bad behavior. Judge James D Humphrey and Dr. Edward J Connor believed my internet writings were harmful to my three and five year old daughters. If Judge Humphrey and Dr. Connor would not have acted in an unethical and/or illegal manner, there would be nothing to write about. If my ex-wife can testify that I am a dangerous parent without any evidence of abuse or neglect, why shouldn't I be able to talk about it? She complained that it could hinder her future employment. Go to the Ripley County Courthouse and do a background check on me. You'll find records stating that I may be a danger to my children, my ex-wife, and/or myself. How would that check out with a potential employer? My ex-wife testified in court that one time I became so enraged, she had to lock her and the girls in the bathroom and she ran bath water and sang songs to drown out my yelling. If that really happened, why didn't I use the screwdriver-like key above the woodwork of the bathroom door? I placed it there in the case one of the girls locked the bathroom door and couldn't get out. If parents believed that they would be held publicly accountable for what they said in court, maybe they wouldn't tell the tales. It is mind boggling to try to understand the logic that publicizing harmful actions to children is in fact more harmful than the original acts themselves. Lying in an effort to deprive children of a parent is horrific, but somehow publicizing the lie is worse. This is a new era for the rights of children and parents because courts are having difficulties keeping their activities undercover. The situation is somewhat similar to the scandal in the Catholic Church. At some point the health and safety of children is more important than protecting the system. Sooner or later a spark sets off an explosion where people begin to say, "The same thing happened to me." The secrets of small town courts can be exposed to the world with a few keystrokes. That's how this particular mother found my story that provided her with some intellectual and emotional support. No thank yous are needed; just knowing that my story helped another parent is thanks enough. We have to keep working to make it better. Thanks "A" for the kind email and I wish you the best of luck.

I was searching out similar issues on Internet and stumbled onto your site. After a long frustrating day in court, I embraced your story for many reasons, mostly the message to not fear, and to know that this insanity is all too real and not a result of my high drama delusional over reactive personality. It's a living hell and consumes the days and nights. Unlike your wife, I am at the other end of spectrum and too drained to say much else. I'm up late "advancing my knowledge" and thank you for providing such a labor of love. I wish you the best and hope your daughters are back in your life.

"A"