Cincinnati Catholic School Pride Week

Many of my friends on Facebook are encouraging people to cast a vote for St. Nicholas Academy in the Cincinnati Catholic School Spirit contest. I thought telling people where your children went to school was dangerous. At least that's what my ex-wife would claim. She testified that posting pictures of my daughters on my Facebook page could jeopardize their safety. Now the Cincinnati Catholic Archdiocese is encouraging people to say, "Hey vote for my kid's school; St. ***."

My oldest daughter is a 1st grader at a Cincinnati Catholic School but I wouldn't think of broadcasting it on Facebook. It's not that I think that it is irresponsible to publicly support your children's school; I just can't do it because my ex-wife would go to court and claim that I put my daughter at risk of being abducted because I asked people to vote for my daughter's school. It may sound crazy but it's true.

On April 16, 2009, my ex-wife filed a motion for a temporary restraining order against me requesting the court to "order that [I] immediately cease and desist in publishing information from the parties' dissolution proceedings on the internet or in any other public forum... and to order [me] to remove all postings that [I have] already made." The reason she didn't want me to write about my situation is that she didn't want people to know that she was using a crooked psychologist to assist her in removing me from my daughters' lives. Theses are some of the statements that she made in her argument that my internet writings were detrimental to my daughters' well being. "On said website, Daniel Brewington divulges the following information to the public:"

• "A picture of our (2) minor children taken from the back in the 'Home' section."
• "Dan's name, the town where he resides, and the fact that I filed for the divorce in the "My Story" section."
• A quote from our custody evaluation in the 'Edward J. Connor Psy. D. Child Custody Evaluator, Connor and Associates PLLC' section stating that 'Mr. Brewington can certainly provide child care for the children, but we believe that maximizing the time that he has with the children, will in fact, sustain their existing bond.'"

The only way that my internet content could be considered damaging to anyone is if

"some people" were concerned that the public would find out that someone knowingly used a crooked psychologist to deny two little girls of a good father. My ex-wife claimed that I put my children in danger because I posted of my children of them driving away in their John Deere Gator and I posted that I lived Milan, Indiana. She felt it would be detrimental to the children if they found out that it was their mother who wanted a divorce She claimed that I leaked information from the custody evaluation that was detrimental to the children when I wrote about how Dr. Connor stated that minimizing the time between my one and three year old girls and me would be in the girls' best interest. She didn't believe the statement was harmful to the girls, she just used it as an excuse to repeat the statement 4 times during her motion in an attempt to influence the judge with the hope that she could drive me out of my daughters' lives. Of course the information wasn't dangerous to the children because Judge Humphrey denied her motion, but unfortunately my ex-wife and Dr. Edward J. Connor were still successful in making two little girls fatherless.

Do I believe that it is dangerous to tell people where your child goes to school? No. If I was allowed to see my daughters, we would be developing websites to advertise our school spirit. I think it's great that a bunch of parents are scampering around to help their children win a school spirit competition. I would do the same if it wasn't for the fact that my ex-wife would probably use it as an argument as to why I am dangerous to my children.

Unfortunately I cannot vote for my daughter this year because I don't want to give my ex-wife the opportunity to twist the information around in an effort to hurt me. With that being said, I can't vote for the schools of my friends' children because I can't vote against my daughter; but since I can't endorse my daughter's school, please cast a vote for St. Nicholas Academy and support my friends and their children as they work together to show their school pride.

Dear God, are you there? It's me, Dan

Dear God,

I know it's been a long time since we chatted. Since you see all, I assume you read my blog and website daily and I thank you for it. I'm sure you know that I am a less than regular church goer but you probably have seen that I have a heart of gold and I always try to do my best to help other people in this world. With that being said, I do not feel that I am owed anything for doing my part as a responsible human being, I am just looking for some insight if you have the time.

As you know, I haven't seen my little girls for over six months. I try to do my best. For the most part I stay very positive and I work vigilantly to get back into my daughters' lives. I know you work in mysterious ways and there is probably a good explanation for all of this. Maybe you believe that I am the right fit for the role I have been forced into. I'm not violent, I'm kind to others, I have a good heart and capable brain, and I don't lose my cool. Actually I feel I have an obligation to use my abilities to help some of those that weren't blessed with the tools to weather the storm. I don't want you to use anymore resources on me because I feel I am rich in mind and spirit. I am asking you to spread light on other people so they have the power to see how their actions negatively affect the lives of so many.

Could you please bless Dearborn County Prosecutor Aaron Negangard with the courage necessary to rise up and do what is right even though it may not be the easy thing to do? I understand that it is sometimes difficult to do the right thing and take a stand against friends or peers who have lost their way, but it is not fair to let people suffer because you are afraid to take a stand.

Could you please replace some of Judge James D Humphrey's power with strength? Power is a very dangerous thing and it has led to the demise of men and civilizations. With power comes fear because there will always be the fear of falling from power. Strength gives us the ability to deal with our fears and it helps us become stronger and braver people. Sometimes people get lost in power. I think Judge Humphrey lost his way. Rather than having the vision and insight to do what is best for children, he became lost because he was blinded by power.

You may have to put in some overtime on Dr. Edward J Connor. I know that sounds a little presumptuous but I really don't have any insight to any single positive quality of the man. He claims that I intimidate him. As you know from reading my web material, (and everything else you observe from above) I have not done anything but question why someone would sacrifice the well being of man for a profit. I've seen the anger in Dr. Connor's eyes and it is frightening. I am neither intimidated nor scared of Dr. Ed Connor's anger or wrath because I have been given the tools to stand up to such a thing. My concern is for all of those who were not blessed with a calm demeanor and the resources necessary to stand against terror. If Dr. Connor is a lost soul, please give those around him the vision and insight to understand that the futures of families should not be placed in the hands of Dr. Edward J Connor.

Could you send a memo to Archbishop Schnurr of the Archdiocese of Cincinnati? I understand that family conflicts are a touchy situation for school systems. I fear Ms. Mary Henninger and some other officials in the school system have lost their way with the truth. John 4:24 states, "God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth." While at my daughter's parent/teacher conference, her teacher said my daughter prayed for her daddy because she did not see him. Please don't let my daughter's religious education be in vain. Prayer without truth diminishes the sacredness of prayer itself. Asking an innocent child to pray for strength because she cannot see her father, while you hinder her father's ability to be a part of her life, only weakens the lessons taught by the school and church. Rather than address the problem or contact people who help children, the school is watching my daughter pray for a father that she cannot see, when help may be just a phone call away. I've found some of the most obvious answers are the hardest to see. Can you pass that along?

I want to thank you for your time in listening to me. I understand I have a duty to be a good father and to help others who can't help themselves and I will always be diligent in working to do so. If you get a second from your busy schedule, any help would be greatly appreciated. If you don't, I understand. There are many travesties in this world that need your attention. I'll keep working to fix this one. Feel free to call me with any questions or concerns.

Thanks,

Dan Brewington

(you know the number)

Letter to Ms. Mary Henninger, Assistant Superintendent, Archdiocese of Cincinnatit

The following is a letter to Mary Henninger. Ms. Henninger is the Assistant Superintendent for the Archdiocese of Cincinnati. The letter refers to the situation regarding the actions and conduct of the principal of my daughter's school. Rather than personally address the actions of the principal, Ms. Mary Henninger and the Archdiocese referred me to their legal counsel, Mark Vander Laan of Dinsmore & Schohl, LLP. Not only is the Catholic Archdiocese of Cincinnati not willing to address how the failure to maintain accurate student records may put children at risk, the Archdiocese is willing to waste financial resources in paying lawyers to handle the situation. If the Archdiocese of Cincinnati is unable to follow or address the provisions of the Family Educational Privacy Act, going through lawyers, mediation, etc... would be a waste of time and resources. If a school system is referring a situation resulting from the conduct of a school principal to their legal counsel, then the public should be made aware of the situation to protect other children and parents from potential harm. For more information about my story, please visit www.DanHelpsKids.com. The photo to the right is my wedding photo, which the school principal claimed I provided to her. She also claimed she did not know where the note above the photo came from. I did not provide the school with my wedding photo with my ex-wife cut out of the photo and the handwriting of the note belongs to my ex-wife. The principal gave me a copy of this photo and the attached note in the school office following the parent/teacher conference that the school invited me to attend. [I have removed the names of my daughter's principal (Doe) and her school (Cincinnati Catholic School X) from the letter.]

Ms. Mary Henninger

Assistant Superintendent

Archdiocese of Cincinnati

(513) 421-3131

(513) 421-6271 Fax

February 17, 2010

Re: Principal [“Doe”]

Dear Ms. Henninger,

My daughter is a kindergarten student at [Cincinnati Catholic School X]. I attended my daughter’s parent/teacher conference on Thursday February 11, 2010. Principal “Doe” was also present at the conference. I found Principal Doe’s conduct and her explanation of the Archdiocese’s policies to be rather disturbing.

I have been requesting copies of my daughter’s school records for a few months now and I have been informed by you and Principal Doe that I have already been provided with all of the records. During the February 11, 2010 conference, Principal Doe informed me that non-custodial parents are not entitled to their children’s student records. Ms. Doe was adamant that I had copies of all the records to which I was entitled. When Ms. Doe offered to let me glance at the contents of my daughter’s file, I discovered that there was a photo of me with a note attached that stated, “Please call the police if he appears at the school for any reason.” Ms. Doe claimed that I sent her the picture and stated, “I don’t know who wrote the note on there to be quite honest with you.” The handwriting on the note belongs to my daughter’s mother.

I did not provide the school my wedding photo with my daughter’s mother cut out of the picture. I find it distressing that Principal Doe claims that she is not aware who provided the information in my daughter’s school file, especially as the school invited me to attend parent teacher conferences while there was a note instructing the school to call the police if I appear at the school for any reason.

I have included a copy of the photo and the attached note that is in my daughter’s school record. Principal Doe claims that she is unaware of who provided the school with the information. I expect a call from your office with an explanation of the situation and a solution to the problem. Principal Doe is either not able to protect the integrity of student records, or she is not telling the truth about who placed the information in my daughter’s file. What complicates the issue is Principal Doe claims that non-custodial parents do not have a right to inspect their children’s entire student record. I plan on contacting the proper authorities on both the state and federal level about Principal Doe’s actions and the school’s policies regarding access to student records. I have attached some examples of Principal Doe’s statements. Please feel free to contact me if you, or Principal Doe, have any questions regarding the accuracy of Principal Doe’s statements. If the Archdiocese cannot provide me with a court order stating that I am not entitled to the information, I would expect the school to provide me with copies of all records, correspondence, medical information, etc… pertaining to my daughter. This would include any letters that the school has sent or received by any party including myself. On December 4, 2009, you stated that there were no other records for the school to give me. This is obviously an inaccurate statement. Principal Doe is aware my daughter’s records are not accurate. Principal Doe was in possession of a note instructing the school to call the police if I appeared at the school for any reason yet the school invited me to parent teacher conferences. Failure to provide me with all information pertaining to my daughter poses a potential emotional and physical risk to my daughter. Go to www.danbrewington.blogspot.com for more information regarding the above situation.

I expect a prompt response.

Sincerely,

Dan Brewington

A Cincinnati Catholic School System Policy may put Children at Risk

...At least as indicated by one principal of a Cincinnati Catholic School.

I recently attended my daughter's parent/teacher conference which the principal sat in on. Principal "Doe" stated that non-custodial parents were not entitled to student records such as emergency contact numbers, registration information, etc... Ms. Doe explained to me that the Family Educational and Privacy Rights Act (also known as the Buckley Amendment) "says you have a right to educational information. That's not emergency phone numbers." By Ms. Doe's statements, the non-custodial parent would have no way of determining if they were listed as an emergency contact if the custodial parent did not want the school to share that information with the other parent. Ms. Doe also stated, "There aren't any records on a kindergarten student." When I asked Ms. Doe for copies of my daughter's medical records that the school is in possession of, Ms. Doe stated "I'm not quite sure why you would want it. Are you going to call her doctor and say 'how's [my daughter] doing?" I asked Ms. Doe why she was being so combative and she replied, "I don't know. Why are you? Wanting copies of stuff that you know you have no right to."

The school's policy in the Parent/Student Handbook states, "The school abides by the provisions of the Buckley Amendment with respect to the rights on non-primary caregiving parents. In the absence of a court order to the contrary, [the school] will provide the non-primary caregiving parent with the access to the academic records and to other school-related information regarding the child." When I asked Ms. Doe if she had a copy of the law, she replied, "Yeah I got the case law. Do you?" I replied "yes I do" to which Ms. Doe replied, "Well good then we're on the same page."

I have never experienced a school administrator with such an antagonistic personality. All I requested was a copy of the records that the school has for my daughter. Last December, Assistant Superintendent Mary Henninger informed me that there were no records to give other than two progress reports. Ms. Doe was adamant that there were no other records in my daughter's file. Ms. Doe was so adamant, she invited me glance over the contents of the file in her office.

"There's her [my daughter's] picture. There's the registration form. Student enrollment. Your picture." This is what Ms. Doe stated when she flipped through my daughter's file. To say the least, I was surprised to see a photo of me with a post-it note in her file. When I asked Ms. Doe to see the photo, Ms. Doe replied, "I think it's the same one you sent me, actually." I did not send the photo to the school. The photo was my wedding photo with my ex-wife cut out of the picture. When I asked her for a copy of the photo and the attached note, Ms. Doe stated, "I don't know who wrote the note on there to be quite honest with you."

I find it hard to believe that the principal of the school did not know who provided the school with a photo of me or who wrote the note attached to my photo; especially when the note stated "Please call the police if he appears at school for any reason." If Ms. Doe would have compared the handwriting on the note to my daughter's registration, she would have been able to see that it was the handwriting of my ex-wife. Why doesn't a principal of a school know who wrote a note that says to call the police if a parent "appears at school for any reason"? Maybe a better question is, why is the school inviting me to parent teacher conferences when my ex-wife is instructing them to call the police if I appear at the school for any reason? There were no restraining orders in my daughter's record, yet there is a note to call the police if I appear at the school. The Family Educational and Privacy Rights Act was enacted to protect the accuracy of student records. Obviously there is no order to support my ex-wife's request for police intervention because the school would not have invited me to parent/teacher conferences, yet, as a non-custodial parent, I do not have the ability to review the accuracy of the rest of my daughter's files per the policy of the Catholic Archdiocese of Cincinnati.

My experience with the principal of this particular Cincinnati Catholic School is disturbing on a variety of levels. The biggest problem is that, as a non-custodial parent, Principal Doe claims that I do not have a right to all records pertaining to my daughter. Ms. Doe told me that there was probably only one emergency contact number in my daughter's record. Ms. Doe stated, "there aren't any student records on a kindergarten student." After telling me there are no records for my daughter besides a couple of progress reports, and telling me that I was not entitled to a copy of my daughter's records from the school, Principal Doe proceeded to give me a copy of a photo of me with a note stating that the police should be called if I appeared at the school for any reason. Ms. Doe claimed the photo came from me and she did not know where the note came from. Since there are no restraining orders, whoever wrote the note was providing the school with false information. Principal Doe stated the Archdiocese's policy prevented me from inspecting the rest of my daughter's student record to see if there is any information, or lack thereof, that may be harmful to my daughter. Principal Doe's actions also call into question the school's ability to keep students safe from truly dangerous individuals. The school invited me to attend parent teacher conferences despite there being a note in my daughter's record instructing the school to call the police if I appear at the school for any reason. Principal Doe stated she didn't know where the note came from yet she gave me a copy of the note while I was standing in the school office. If Principal Doe did not believe that my ex-wife's note instructing the school to call the police was credible, then Principal Doe and the Catholic Archdiocese may be putting my daughter's emotional and physical well-being at risk. The policy of the Catholic Archdiocese prohibits me from inspecting my daughter's records to see if there is more inaccurate information that may be damaging to my daughter or her father. It's very disturbing when an educational institution prevents a non-custodial parent from inspecting their own child's record when the school is aware that inaccurate information exists in the file.

I love you girls. Daddy won't give up on you.