I received “fake” letters from both of my daughters over the weekend. In over a year of not seeing my daughters, the letters were the most comprehensive updates that I received about the girls. Rather than receive a straight forward letter, letting me know about the progress of the girls, I received two letters that were written by someone else acting as if the girls wrote them. The letter “from” my four-year old daughter says things like, “I like to be independent and do things myself. I get aggravated when others try and help me with something I can do. If someone tries to help me, I will usually undo what they did and start over myself. That’s just me!”
I’m an adult. I don’t need a 700 word happy story to report the progress of my children. During the course of my 2 ½ year divorce, I received a written update every morning that I picked up the children. When Judge Humphrey terminated my visitation time and the girls’ mother stopped letting me speak to the children on the phone, I didn’t receive any updates on the girls for several months. Now I am finding out that they are losing teeth, growing bigger, and going bowling, through letters that are written by an adult who is acting like they are my children.
If I was working out of town it would be cute. If I was deployed in Afghanistan, it would be comforting. Considering that the letters are being written by someone who had me arrested for calling/texting in an effort to check on the welfare of my children; I find it insulting. Imagine how you would feel if the person who was working hard to keep you from your children was the same person writing letters pretending to be your children. What can I do about it? Nothing. I have to take it in stride. I can’t raise my voice and I can’t argue because everything I say WILL be used against me in a court of law. Even the stuff that I do not say is used against me. They even use the stuff that they speculate that I might say in the future.
I was once accused of trying to scheme and plot. No one ever explained what I was scheming and plotting to do. The only “plot” that I have ever worked on is my strategy to ensure that my children have the ability to grow up spending equal time with both parents. The other side has been “scheming and plotting” to devise a plan to shut the children’s father out of their lives, while writing feel good letters “from” the girls in an effort to keep me informed of what I am missing in my little girl’s lives. I love you girls. Daddy will always fight for the right to be your dad.